At the end of the day, we are proud to share our struggles in hopes that it is helpful to another couple. Marriage counseling should not be the last thing a couple does in their marriage. It should be a tool used to fix something. In our case, we were stuck and could not figure out how to stop having what was basically the same argument over & over. Sound familiar? It took our therapist all of 4 sessions to get to the root of our problem - something we had spent hours & hours on and just couldn't figure out. For 6 months, we worked through our issue and came out much stronger on the other side.
If you and your spouse are having a repeating problem - we would urge you to try something different - a therapist, a book, a class - whatever it is - unstick yourselves folks! You will not be sorry you did!