Welcome to July - or as we like to call it, "Work Less Month!"
Of course, summer vacations are a great opportunity to get away from the proverbial Rat Race - but we invite our happy couples to take this a step further.
How often do you find yourself thinking about work when you are home with your Partner?
Are you checking your email while your kids are at the playground?
Do you sneak in a work call here & there?
Doing these things takes your focus away from your Partner - and they NOTICE! They may say its not a big deal, but trust us from married folk who have been there - it IS a big deal. Of course, no one is perfect and things do happen but this month, put your focus on your Partner instead! Check yourself and make sure you are truly present when together. Change your way of thinking for one month and you won't regret it. This is a daily chore for some - so, keep the focus. A few tips to help you:
Whatever you do, we know it will be great and your Partner will love you for it even more - like that's possible, right??!!!
There actually is some science behind the concept of putting yourself in another person's shoes. We can't quote actual research but we KNOW there's logic in it! This month, get out your chemicals, mops, brooms, rakes and start swapping chores. Its time to feel appreciated for all you do by watching your partner suffer through it all. No, seriously - its the other way around: YOU are to appreciate the other one by walking a mile, so to speak.
So this is the kind of month that you need to sit down and map out a plan for, because it would be easy for one person to suddenly have a lot of chores to do and the other seemingly have none. If one of you doesn't work, this is a sure thing. But there ARE things you both do and you could set it up so this is an even swap - not an unfair one. So pull out your checklists, to-do-lists and note pads people, its time to get down & dirty!
Debbie & Paul Lamb, Founders of Lambs On Love & Authors of "Be A Better Partner" - working to help busy couples improve their relationship one fun month at a time.